{"id":1763,"date":"2008-11-16T20:10:43","date_gmt":"2008-11-16T12:10:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chekyang.com\/musings\/?p=1763"},"modified":"2008-11-16T20:10:43","modified_gmt":"2008-11-16T12:10:43","slug":"army-and-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/2008\/11\/16\/army-and-women\/","title":{"rendered":"Army and Women"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This couple of weeks\u2014or 18 days to be exact\u2014I&#8217;ll be in camp for my yearly Incamp Training (ICT) stint. Yeah, they&#8217;re still calling back 37 year old ah peks back. I&#8217;m like one of the oldest guys around in my company.<\/p>\n<p>But funnily, the other day a couple of guys with me were surprised to learn I was 37. One remarked that I look maybe 30, 31 at most.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-1768\" style=\"float: right;\" title=\"blog-dsc_8056-uniform\" src=\"https:\/\/chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/11\/blog-dsc_8056-uniform.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"338\" \/>The lot were only convinced when I got up the pull-bar bar during the Individual Physical Proficiency Test the other day and the electronic display stated in large lettering I was in &#8220;Cat Z&#8221;, or personnel who&#8217;re 35 years and older.<\/p>\n<p>And the surprises for them didn&#8217;t end there. I got up the bar, went up and down 5 times, then let go from the bar sprightly. Someone said the pull-up bar&#8217;s the hardest station to clear for reservist personnel. But there I was, going up and down like nothing, and looking as though I could still do a lot more but got down because I was bored. If they only knew that for the other stations, I&#8217;m utterly hopeless haha.<\/p>\n<p>In any case, this blog entry isn&#8217;t about what I&#8217;m doing in this ICT this year. Rather, it&#8217;s about a not-often-discussed aspect of serving national service i.e. you do it because it&#8217;s your duty to and not (normally) because you want to. It&#8217;s about having a girl \/ lady at home to go back to.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the thing. Prior to my enlistment as a full-time national serviceman in 1990 to 1992, I was in JC and there was this girl from my class I had a thing for (blogged about several times already, e.g. <a href=\"https:\/\/chekyang.com\/musings\/2008\/03\/12\/i-wanna-new-toy\/\">here<\/a>). During my JC2 year I went about the school taking portrait pictures of my friends, and hers was one I took. She wrote some very beautiful and encouraging words on the back of it. In the following year when I was a full-time national serviceman, on a couple of occasions I was out of the country on overseas exercises. A lot of nights we&#8217;d be out in the field in some rural, dusty area with few signs of civilization. During those NS days, I actually had this picture of this girl in my pocket wherever I went. And during those nights when all was quiet, I&#8217;d sometimes take her picture out and gazed at her.<\/p>\n<p>Sounds corny eh? But when you&#8217;re in uniform and have naught but the company of unwashed men who smell as bad as you do, all stuck in some rural area or some jungle, having a girl to remember and think about helps. I mean it. It reminds you that there&#8217;s a civilian and normal life outside the army, and something to look forward to upon your return home.<\/p>\n<p>In NTU I had this friend who said that if her husband or a boyfriend had to go back for national service every year, on each time he leaves for the stint she wouldn&#8217;t feel sorry. Rather, she&#8217;d feel very protected by his discharging of his duty and sacrifice of his time. She&#8217;d feel safe.<\/p>\n<p>She was a very dear friend of mine, and someone I wrote <a href=\"http:\/\/music.chekyang.com\">music<\/a> for too. And this friend of mine wasn&#8217;t Singaporean but Malaysian. Which made what she said even the more special.<\/p>\n<p>These days, I don&#8217;t know if there are still army men who carry around photos of their girls in their pockets. These days, you chuck an entire JPG album into a non-camera phone or PDA, or maybe even a PSP that I see so many young fellows carry around in camp. And when you miss your girl, you just SMS.<\/p>\n<p>Times have certainly changed. But while the technology to carry those memories around has improved, that men in uniform still need their supportive girls or women behind them haven&#8217;t changed; nor do I think it&#8217;s likely to, ever.:)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This couple of weeks\u2014or 18 days to be exact\u2014I&#8217;ll be in camp for my yearly Incamp Training (ICT) stint. Yeah, they&#8217;re still calling back 37 year old ah peks back. I&#8217;m like one of the oldest guys around in my<\/p>\n<div class=\"entry-read-more\"><a class=\"read-more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/2008\/11\/16\/army-and-women\/\">Read More<span class=\"cleanwp-sr-only\">  Army and Women<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1763","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-everything-else","wpcat-644-id"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1763","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1763"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1763\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1763"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1763"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chekyang.com\/musings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1763"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}